Presented by Peggy Matheson

“I gained new insights about myself and about dynamics in my marriage that I hadn’t recognized before. I feel like I am leaving with tools that will help me to nurture my own needs as well as to help me to connect with my husband in more meaningful and healthy ways.” — Danielle, TX

“Peggy is knowledgeable, personable, and real. She teaches with compassion and understanding.” — M. W., Texas

The goals for this workshop are:

1. To help you gain a better understanding of the things going on in your relationship and the power you have to invite healthy change.
2. To help you recognize and access the resources you already possess that can assist you in feeling hope about yourself and your marriage.
3. To give you tools to recognize and diminish self-sabotaging thoughts, behaviors, and beliefs.
4. To help you find a clear vision of what life will be like when you have transcended the things that are triggering your pain.
5. To help you move into a better version of your future.

I will begin with inviting you to hold space for each other as we share about where we are in our lives and marriages. It is very important that we not only connect with each other but that we connect with ourselves. As women, we have the awesome capacity for healing and wholeness deep inside. When we listen, see, and honor one another’s journey we allow that capacity to emerge.

Knowledge is power. Some very important teachings will be shared to bring awareness to what is actually happening in your marriage and to recognize its impact on you. These guys can be tricky-ricky and you’ve got to understand what you’re dealing with to keep yourself from going crazy!!!

We will look at the main risk factors for SSA and the compartments your husband creates which can keep him fragmented and split. I will teach how women and men are hard wired differently and how this impacts your communication and perceptions of your husband. Shifting our perceptions can shift our lives.

Each woman will be given the opportunity to discover how she has potentially been traumatized by:

• Betrayal because he’s attracted to men
• His acting out
• Disconnection

We will look at the three main trauma responses and discuss the interactions between husband and wife that can re-traumatize you and how to handle and mitigate them.

Using the Growth/Gravity diagram, we will look at how each of our relationships is a system, and how we have the power to impact this system. Using powerful visualization techniques and tools, each woman will learn to shift unwanted triggers and beliefs that are keeping her stuck in the old system.

Through a simple yet powerful exercise you will learn how your biggest triggers are your greatest gift for transformation in your marriage. This exercise will gently open the doors of compassion for yourself and your spouse and help you make changes that can create a new possibility in your marriage.

From this new possibility, I will help you create a new vision of yourself that is more whole and congruent with your truth and who you really want to be. This will then be incorporated into a written “My Vision of Marriage”—a powerful tool that can sneak changes into your marriage!

And finally, I will share some daily practices that I have found helpful on my journey to living a freer and more whole life, including incorporating the tools taught in this workshop. I want you to really understand that no matter what your challenges are (and many of ours are the same) coming back to yourself, no matter what he chooses to do, is the greatest gift you can give yourself.