Presented by David Matheson
“In my judgment, his typology and differentiation of experiences with same-sex attraction…resonates with me much more than other more narrow models. I would recommend the workshop to anyone.” — Ty M., Texas
“He speaks with the authority of someone who has worked in this field for many years, and his delivery encouraged reflection and growth.” — Robert
This workshop has four goals:
- To help you gain a very clear understanding of the things going on in your life today that are causing homosexuality.
- To help you recognize the strengths and resources you already posses that can assist you in changing your life today and in the future.
- To help you understand what you need in order to overcome issues that still affect you and to prioritize your needs.
- To help you find a clear vision of what you will be like when you have transcended the things that are causing homosexuality.
The concepts to be presented go well beyond what has been understood and taught before. Come and gain significant new insights.
David will begin by providing a broad overview of his Gender Disruption Model, which describes how same-sex attraction (SSA), homosexuality, and the lack of opposite-sex attraction develop as results of combinations of life experiences, biological givens, and individual perceptions and responses. In brief, his model outlines the way that nature, nurture, cognition, and emotion may conspire together to keep homosexuality in your life.
With that background, David will then explain the two essential conditions that are required for development and continuation of homosexuality. He will describe five distinct types of homosexuality. And he will assist you in understanding your own type and what that means for your healing process.
Next, David will provide an overview of his Gender Wholeness model as a context for understanding the changes you may need to make in your own life to create healing. The remainder of the time will be spent in deep exploration of eight risk factors that cause and maintain homosexuality. Ample time will be allotted for question and answers. And the ultimate focus will be placed on looking beyond your problems to a vision of complete healing.
The eight risk factors to be discussed are:
1. Unhealthy relationships with females
During childhood, many of us with SSA experienced relationships with our mother, sisters, or other females that were overwhelming, traumatizing, shaming, feminizing or disturbing in other ways.
2. Distorted perspectives of gender
Many of us grew up in circumstances that created a distorted view of gender. (Gender refers to the distinctions and different roles of males and females.) These distortions may have deprived us of the natural masculine perspective that women have something wonderful to contribute to us and that we, as men, have something to contribute to them.
3. Problems in relationships with other males
Human beings naturally need connection with others of our own sex. When this need is not met, a deep hunger develops. This hunger for male connection is felt by most men with SSA.
4. Problems with your own maleness
Men need to feel masculine. We need to see ourselves as possessing the necessary traits and fulfilling the expected roles that go with being a man. Men with SSA often lack this sense of themselves, resulting in a painful feeling of incongruity with our gender.
The development of homosexuality can be influenced by conditioning, reinforcement, and labeling. Early sexual experiences can condition boys to desire sex with other males. Homosexual behavior strongly reinforces same-sex attraction. And being labeled as “gay” may encourage homosexual exploration.
6. Sexual abuse
In addition to conditioning boys to desire sex with other males, sexual abuse can also contribute to boys feeling unmasculine; symptoms of depression, anxiety, and shame; and patterns of repeated sexual acting out.
7. Certain biological and physical issues
Biological or physical conditions that cause boys to be singled out, or that leave them unable to adequately participate in masculine activities, can result in them feeling incongruent with their gender and becoming isolated from other males.
8. Certain emotional and psychological problems
Issues like shame, depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsiveness, posttraumatic disturbance, and dissociation can contribute to the development and continuation of homosexuality in a surprising number of ways. They also often block the recovery process.
Using powerful visualization techniques, David will guide you in looking well beyond each of your risk factors to deeply experience what life will be like for you once those issues have been resolved. In order to transform ourselves, we must have a clear view of what we want our lives to become.
Before the workshop concludes, David will help you boil down everything you’ve learned about yourself into just a few “next steps” or action items, empowering you to continue gaining from the workshop long afterward.